God Send :)

So I prayed that my husband and I could have some peace and quiet to ourselves, while stressing over the Big Bear trip. God answered my prayers. The Big Bear trip was cancelled due to a snow storm that would have us snowed in up there until next Saturday! Then, 10K was so upset he said he wanted to spend Sun/Mon/Tues/Wed at his mothers house instead of with us. It's been wonderful! Yesterday we rented movies and just cuddled and watched them together, then had my brother and his girlfriend over and we spent the whole night laughing and having a great time together. Today he went and got me coffee while I took a bath (We didn't get up until 11!) and we rented more movies and just relaxed together. We've laughed more in the past 24 hours than we have in a month. He is napping right now, and so I decided to hop on the computer and write a little bit.

Thank you for your input about badly behaved step-kids. It's really hard to know when to draw the line. I know I am a control freak and a perfectionist by nature. I try not to let it get out of hand, and C says I'm too hard on 10K. I can be. I realize that. I'm also too hard on C sometimes as well. Not to mention myself. :) I could make a list 10 miles long of my pet peeves and seriously, some of them are really stupid. But just because I know it's ridiculous sometimes doesn't stop me from getting mad over them, or help me change my behavior. I'm one of those people who is OCD about everything. All the movies have to be alphabetized, the CD's, hell, the toothbrushes have to go in a certain order. Most of the time I can take a deep breath and fix whatever is wrong myself, without getting mad at whoever messed it up, but when I'm so stressed that the wrong size spoon in the wrong slot is enough to send me over the edge. I'm going to try really hard to work with the lady I'm talking to about relaxing and letting things not be perfect. I explained what was going on and she said that C has what she called "guilty dad syndrome" which I can clearly see. We have barely talked about the kids today and yesterday night. Just focused on what WE wanted to do and that was great. I feel like kids and plans are all we ever talk about anymore.

We took them to see a movie and my sister, Princess and her friend joined us. C looked down the aisle at the 5 kids and turned to me to say, "This is what it's going to look like" and we both cracked up. I told him we would probably never take all 5 to see a movie...I can't wait for the day when we have our own babies together. We already picked out names. I want a boy then a girl or 2 boys. Christian and Caden for boys, and Kinsey for a girl. :) Pretty names huh. We gotta stay with the /k/ sound because it wouldn't sound right to have 5 K's then Bob!

Well Merry Christmas everyone!! Sorry for the random ramblings of this post, I've had a few mimosas and am feeling just love-r-ly!

Best Holiday Wishes,
K

Miss PL

So the meeting with the psychologist lady (henceforth known as Miss PL) went really well. She explained how 10K's brain is working and to make a long story short, we are going to try meds. We really just don't know what else to do for him, because we have tried EVERYTHING.

We are meeting with her again on the 30th with 10K, so that should be interesting.

How do you guys deal when all you do is fight with your husband over his kids? C thinks I'm being so harsh because I'm nervous about taking 10K on a trip to my grandparents house in the mountains. I guess I just come from a more traditional family where you didn't so much as roll your eyes when your grandparents were around unless you wanted to spend the rest of the day in your room. I'm terrified 10K is going to be rude to C and I in front of them, and I just couldn't stand the embarrassment. Is that so wrong for me to think that? Apparently in my house it is. 10K is ALL we ever talk about anymore. We never just talk about us, about what's going on in our heads. We don't disagree on much, but when it comes to 10K we butt heads sometimes something fierce. How do you handle this? I'm at my wits end with both of them and all I want is some damned peace and quiet!!!!

Bah-humbug-
K

When the Sh.t hits the fan...it doesn't rain gumdrops

So the emails between 10K's teacher and I have gotten so long and numerous since I last posted that it would be futile to subject you to reading all of them. So, to sum up what has happened in the past 2 weeks, he is getting in a lot of trouble at school, behavior in class as well as toward other students is abysmal at best. He has been lying to us, as well as to his teacher, and is now in "emotion management" (aka anger management) once a week for group sessions. We were also suggested to seek outside therapy as this is not enough for his severe issues. So we are. C and I are meeting with a therapist on Thursday to discuss 10K and his recent setbacks. From then on he will meet once a week with said therapist for an hour. Hopefully this will bring peace back into our home. I am also going to seek therapy through a woman at my church. She runs small groups and is a great listener, which is what I really need. She is a step mom to an angry teenager so she will, I'm sure, have plenty to share with me. In other news, Thanksgiving was lovely and we are looking forward to being able to do a little Christmas shopping over the next few weeks. Lord knows if I wasn't so critical of credit cards or worried about paying rent I would have therapy shopped us into a million dollar debt right now. Luckily my head is screwed on a little more straight than that. I still won't give up my Starbucks though. Not now, not ever. :)

Looking forward to hours of therapy,
K