C has called 10K out to war and pushed our marriage safely back from the front lines where it has previously lain. I think he finally got it. Since my last post C has not let one disrespectful comment pass 10K's lips without an immediate talking to and apology to me. He contacted the doctor and he has an appointment in 2 weeks to get put on medication. He is going to be in summer school from 8-11 and C has given me full permission to shove him out the front door and tell him to go play till dinner. I also am getting my own 'space' in our new house we move into tomorrow. I get a large section of our master bedroom for a chaise lounge, bookshelves and an antique roll top desk for my scrap booking. At any time they become to much, I can go in my room, lock my door, and be in a sanctuary until I can gain control again. It's been a stressful move, but having 10K be more respectful has been a very nice breath of fresh air.
Also, C and I went to court yesterday to hash out this stupid child support issue. The mediator was fantastic, and I hope we see him on the 26th. Yesterday was the date for C's support case against her for 10K. They sat down with the mediator, and I sat close by in the waiting area. It was hilarious. She kept saying, I don't understand why I have to pay 555 and he only has to pay 233! and the mediator explained (more than once) it's because C has more kids, more often and makes less than she does. She then actually asked if the 555 was negotiable. lol...he said no. She brought up her case about getting us to pay half of the girls after school care, which she pays way to much for. C brought up that we have offered to help her find care for the girls that would be much cheaper, but she's refused. She says to the mediator, "Well, I want them in ESS." to which he replies, "Oh, you have full 100% legal custody?" she says, "No, we have 50/50" and then he says, "Oh, well then C has a say as to who watches the girls too, and it's not just your decision."
It was funny. It reminded me of another ex I've read about, how she has this idea that, well, I think it should be this way, and because I want it, make it so, immediately. I guess she just didn't get that just because she 'thinks' (that's pushing the definition of the word) she should get tons of money and owe us nothing doesn't mean that is what is true, actual, or has anything to do with the real world. Ring Ring, Earth calling Crazy...
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hehe..."earth calling Crazy." that made me giggle. Glad to hear you've gained some control over your situation and C is stepping it up a bit.
I know a BM who "thinks" that way too! She believes something, or states something, so therefore it must be true, reality be damned. How simple life must be, thinking that way.
I am jumping on that bandwagon. I think we may all have the same BM. "I say it, therefore it is true", "I want it, therefore I am entitlted to it" . . . and "you are nothing but a rotten father, lying bastard, cheap so and so and you deserve nothing!"
I'm so glad to hear you guys worked it out and that C is keeping 10k in line - plus that's also good for his future success.
Too funny about the mediator!
Our BM thinks that way, too. She thinks she shouldn't have to work, that my hubby should pay for everything for the kids and anything she leaves him with- he should be grateful for. Must be a psycho ex-wife thing.
I'm so glad that C is getting better about making 10k behave. Here's hoping the streak continues!
"Since my last post C has not let one disrespectful comment pass 10K's lips without an immediate talking to and apology to me."
I am SO very glad to hear this! He gets major points in my book for that.
It's entirely too scary because it isn't just a flip lie (the "I say therefore it's truth") - it's that in many of our cases, the do actually believe it to be true!
It's why we spend too much time wondering if we're the ones who are psycho (until we discover with whom we are dealing).
~Mister-M
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